Trust

This post is for a friend, whom i hope will get to read this soon. I stumbled upon it while blog surfing and i think it's pretty nice and succinct.

Before you decide to give everything up and feel that life is hopeless, please remember that you have friends and family who will support you and be on your side, no matter his side of the story (which as i said before, i dont give a damn). Read this babe, because everytime i talk to you, i never know how to dish out the best "advice" or claim to know what you've been through because i don't. But I hope that this few paragraphs can let you understand better what we've been trying to say so far and can touch your heart a little deeper than what we can do.

And if all else fails, you can still talk to me on msn or call me ya?

"I think when you are deciding if you can trust someone, you need to look back at all the ways that person has made you feel. There should never be any pressure, there should be no hurtful lies, there should be no belittling. The person you trust to put you in a helpless position should never have made you feel bad about yourself and they should be concerned about your safety too.

I know it is often hard to see the ways you have been manipulated until you can see it in hindsight and that often by then it is too late. At least it is that way for me. I have put myself into dangerous situations without being able to see that the man involved was only looking out for what he could get from me. Only later have I been able to look back and see that the he in question was always pressuring me to do things that I didn't want to do, that he would withhold affection until I gave in to give him what he wanted. It was only in hindsight I could see that he was always making me feel bad about myself to the point of making me believe that I was lucky that an unattractive fat slob like myself was loved by someone as good as he was. He made me believe that I was unworthy of him. So I know how hard it can be to be able to see an untrustworthy person for what they are.

So how can we trust ourselves to know when someone is trustworthy? If I knew the answer to that, I could make a fortune selling the secret to those of us that suffer from lower self confidence. All I can say is that if at any time you feel like it is something you must do to make him stay in love with you even if it makes your tummy feel ill, trust your gut and walk away before it goes too far."